Charlie just has stopped by seeing my lights on in my house with tons of my laundered clothes ironed and on plastic hangers. The first inklings of dawn were on the eastern horizon. I had to help Charlie get them all inside. My clothes smelled extra, extra wonderful as well and Charlie explained what I needed to get my clothes smelling like that.
“You are like me,” I told Charlie with a good hearted chuckle as I patted him on the back, “We never sleep!”
'”Horsefly got choked again this morning,” Charlie told me somberly with worry lines on his face. “I was trying to feed him a bowl of bacon and grits and it didn’t stay down long. He’s in the bed now and will sleep all day.”
I told Charlie if he ever needed to travel then Horsefly could stay with me. I know how to handle him and his needs well. Charlie thanked me profusely and told me he may need me when he helps my brother drive clean across the country to San Diego. Charlie is still debating on whether or not Horsefly will go.
It Gave Me a Case of the Lonesomes…
I was chatting with an old girlfriend from high school last night over the Internet. Oh, did I madly love her at one point in my life. I still have pangs from a broken heart to this day. She left me without a date to the prom a week before it was scheduled. Now? I am very honest about what I have been through over the years and upfront about it. There is no fake façade with me these days. There will also be no surprises if you choose to date me. This will probably mean I will never have another date again, though. I am certainly damaged goods. I keep hoping someone will admire my honesty and recognize it for the virtue it is. What do you think? Should I be honest about my mental illness and past or hide it? I guess I could always put a new dating profile on No Longer Lonely. A dating and friendship website for mentally ill people.
4 comments:
Always be honest about who you are! Everything about you is what makes you who you are, and the right person will accept you no matter what. Remember that despite what they claim, there is not one person who is perfect. Everyone has their flaws, everyone is fallible in some way. I know it sounds cliche, but honesty IS the best policy.
While I think you should certainly be honest about who you are, I don't think you have to tell someone the first thing when you meet them. Let them get to know you first. If it looks like it might turn into multiple dates and you like the person - then let them know about your mental illness.
I believe that you can find someone that will respect and admire you because you are very generous and kind. Like Sharon said, we all have flaws. When the right one comes along, they will be able to overlook your shortcomings.
Yes we all have flaws and are damaged in one way or another. Just be yourself, go with your gut. You're an intelligent man and you know what's best for you.
I couldn't wait to get to my computer tonight to tell you that I heard the cicadas tonight. They are a little early, must mean the soil temp is at 62, but we are expecting the 13 year brood. My youngest son said, "Finally! Summer is here!" Haha! Now all I need is a firefly.
The No Longer Lonely website sounds like a good idea where people with similar life experiences can connect.
You have so much to offer, Andrew. You have so many talents and strengths. Your honesty is one of those strengths. I guess how much you share with people will depend on the relationship.
Just a friend does not need to know as much as someone you might want to have a future with.
There is someone out there for you who will appreciate you for the man you are, a man with a great deal of heart and soul!
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